Two for the price of one

girlsControl? Ha. I guess when you talk about ultimate surrender to God, you should expect a curveball, right? Today was just that (and then some more).

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
— Isaiah 55:8-9

This morning we went to have our first ultrasound for Baby Dykstra #2. We were so excited to find out if we were going to have a girl or a boy. My mind set going into this ultrasound was much different than the last one with Maebyn. When we found out we were having a girl last year I think I almost cried, and not from excitement. It’s embarrassing… but it’s the truth. I wanted a boy so bad and I was somewhat heartbroken that Maebyn was a girl when the technician let the cat out of the bag. I’m not proud of my response but like I said, that’s where I was and it took me a while to get over it. I don’t think I truly got over it until she was born. The day I met Maebyn I realized it didn’t matter if she was a boy or a girl, but that she was mine. I was in love and that love has only increased each and every day. Me and MaK say all the time that we can’t even imagine having a boy first – we’re thankful God knew what He was doing in our family and it was better than what we wanted to “plan” ourselves.

So this morning we went to the same ultra sound place, sat in the same room and looked at the same screen. I was determined to be excited no matter if it was a boy or a girl. Deep down inside though, I knew I still wanted a boy. But, in all honesty, I was OK with a girl because then Maebyn would have an almost twin sister. I put Maebyn on my lap as we eagerly awaited the big screen to light up and show us our new family member. The technician rubbed the warm jelly over Mak’s over inflated belly (I could tell Maeby was excited because she was bouncing up and down on my legs) – the tension was mounting! I was trying my best not to drop her because I was shaking so bad with all the nerves that were racing through my body.

As the ultrasound started, the technician paused, looked at us and said “Is this your first ultra sound?” We said yes and then she asked, “And how far along are you?”. MaK looked a bit nervous but calmly replied “17 weeks”. The technician moved the device to get a better look, then stuttered through the next phrase, “Well… there are two babies in here, guys…” Say what!? Can you count again, please? Trust the Lord, give Him control of how many children we will have, trust that He will provide. These are all things I posted in my blog when we announced we were pregnant and today these statements have started to be truly tested. The technician continued, “And, guess what… these two little ones are sharing a placenta and appear to be identical… yep, identical twin girls!

I don’t know how to accurately describe my emotions. I’m mostly excited, somewhat nervous, and just in awe of what is going on. Needless to say, I was so in shock from the news that the sex of the babies really seemed unimportant (still can’t believe I just typed “babies“). It hit me a couple minutes later that I would be the father of 3 baby girls. Not to mention, because MaK will probably deliver earlier with the twins – three baby girls under one years old. I’m proud of my reaction this time. I was disappointed we aren’t having a boy, but this time I am elated at the opportunity just to be blessed with another child, and then another one again.

We’ve always wanted twins but I’m not sure we would have picked to have three under one. If the goal for our family was to live comfortably and have kids but still have time for ourselves this would be a difficult situation to undertake. This season will be difficult, exhausting, scary, and filled with unknowns. However, if increasing our families faith is the ultimate goal, this situation will be one that will force our faith to grow as we watch where the Lord leads. There are many unknowns right now. We’ll need a new car to fit three car seats, we’ll need more strollers and whatever else you need for babies times three and most importantly… we’ll need renewed faith each day that God has us in this season for a purpose. God is on the move and we can feel it in a deep, deep way today. Our hope is that as the unknowns continue to grow so will our faith. We have no idea what we are about to enter into but there is an intense excitement that is welling up in MaKenzie and I both as we get the opportunity to trust in the Lord on a deeper level.

Praise the Lord for 2 for the price of 1.

The Dykstra Family

16 thoughts on “Two for the price of one

  1. After reading your blog about “letting go and letting God” about more children, my mouth just fell open! Wow, God has big plans for you two! He has a sense of humor…….oh I mean He has a plan. I will be praying for all of you. It IS an exciting time for all of you. My two older syblings were 11 months apart and were raised like twins. You will have tripletts!

  2. I am sobbing! We are soooo excited for you guys and Nate says “welcome to the WAY outnumbered club”! We are praying like crazy for health for all and continued peace cause you’re gonna need it! Love you guys like crazy!!!

  3. Are they modi or momo? I don’t see a membrane… I am having momo twin girls in April (due in June, but momos can’t go past 34 weeks), and my daughter will be 1 in April. (We had to get a bigger house, too.)

    If they aren’t momo, you might be able to get closer to September. When is Maebyn 1?

    Identical twins are random, but more often are girls (a good thing, because girl preemies have higher survival rates), and studies have shown an increased incidence in moms who get pregnant while breastfeeding (I did).

    We had to get a bigger car, too (Suburban!), and will get a bigger house at some point. Our niece moved in to be helper/nanny. It is a wild ride. I am 29+2 today.

    Finally, congrats!!! This is so exciting!

      • *We’re still trying to identify what type of identical they are… they share a placenta but we’re not sure if they shared a sac initially, what’s the difference between momo and modi? Maebyn is one August 11! Congrats to you too, how exciting – and what a life change coming up for your family in just a few weeks!

    • Momo means a shared sac AND placenta. Modi is a shared placenta and separate sacs (what separates them is a dividing membrane one cell layer thick, which can be difficult to see on an ultrasound; if it’s there, they will find it eventually).

      Momo twin pregnancy is much higher risk, and moms have to see an MFM (maternal fetal medicine specialist) instead of an OB. Most often, doctors recommend momo moms go inpatient around 24-28 weeks for frequent or continuous monitoring because of the high risk of cord entanglement (it occurs in about 100 percent of momo pregnancies) which can lead to compression). Delivery is no later than 34 weeks, because the risk of compression gets greater as the babies get bigger.

      I am inpatient now, which is a huge relief, although it is hard to be away from my 11-month-old (they visit every day, and stay the night at least oncea week, which helps).

      I hope your twins are modi, but either way they will be little miracle girls.

      I am glad Shawna shared this post with me. Finally we have found someone in the same crazy situation we are in: three girls in a year!!

      Please email me anytime (dmwelker at gmail dot com). I am a big researcher, so have lots of online resources and/or advice. And am not offended if you then choose to ignore said advice. 😉

      • Thanks, DeAnn! We’ll be praying for you, I’m sure the last few weeks have been tough with being away from your family. Keep us posted on how you and the twins are doing! We’re fairly certain the girls are Modi, but still need confirmation from an US at our doc’s office. The technician who performed the first US said they appear to be sharing a placenta but are in separate sacs.

        How far along are you now?

      • Sorry I missed your latest reply. Life got crazy, and I just came back to catch up! I am now 33 weeks, 2 days. My delivery is scheduled for next Wednesday. Our other daughter turned one three days ago! I am going to read your latest posts now, but am hoping and praying all is well for your family!!

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