Help! … I’m Helpless!

sick mom and baby

The two sickies at the Dykstra household.

On Mondays MaKenzie works from home. They are generally pretty good days because I get to see her most of the day, I can run an errand or two, and we usually eat breakfast and lunch together. If she didn’t have to work all day, Mondays would be perfect. Today however, was a different story and it all started when the clock struck midnight.

Maebyn’s been a great sleeper ever since she was born (12 hours a night since 6 weeks Woo Woo!!) but the last couple weeks have been terrible and last night was much of the same. It’s not her fault. She just figured out she can roll to her belly and discoveries this monumental are enough to keep anyone up at night. All that to say, Maebyn has her first cold and she’s just not feeling well today. On top of this, MaKenzie has felt sick the entire day but has needed to work, thus adding to the frustration level in the house. I also may or may not have added to this stress by taking 2 hours to work out, a couple more to look at potential rehab houses, and generally just being out of the house longer than I should have on a day like today.

When I got home, MaKenzie and I calmly and quietly discussed a couple things that she thought I could do differently when she is working from home, particularly when she and Maebyn are sick. I politely agreed and thanked her for her correction and keeping me accountable to my responsibilities. I then led our family in a prayer where I repented for all my wrong doings and finally we all joined hands and began singing in perfect harmony. Pretty much the exact opposite of all these things is what actually happened. Use your imagination. It’s probably not far off.

I so badly wanted to take away MaKenzie and Maebyn’s sickness today but I couldn’t. I think it was my first experience as a helpless parent. There’s been plenty of times over the past 4 years where I’ve felt like a helpless husband but today was the first time I’ve felt it as a parent. Maebyn has a cold, so I know this is a very small scale to feel this on but none the less it sucks. I want to have control and on days like today I was reminded that I, actually, I have very little control over the day to day happenings of our life.

All in all it wasn’t that great of a day but a day spent with my wife and daughter can’t be categorized as a bad day. Till next time…

The only healthy one in the fam,

Ross

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7 thoughts on “Help! … I’m Helpless!

  1. This one time Mb was like American Horror Story sick, and I came home from a weekend hunting trip and find her laying in bed looking like death and barfing her guts out like every 30 minutes. We had been married like less than six months, were still getting settled in, and when I asked her if she had taken her temperature, she just croaks “We don’t have a thermometer.” Fml. So I race to Walgreens and she’s like 103 plus, and I’m thinking “Balls, she’s literally dying. I’ve seen how this episode of 20/20 ends: spouse is gone for the weekend with his “alibi,” wife dies from mystery illness, and spouse has to flee to Mexico.” Anyways, she was totally fine, but all that to say, I feel your pain–having a sick spouse (and, I imagine, baby) is the worst.

  2. Ooo…doesn’t sound like a fun day, but sounds oh so familiar. You are not alone! Hope you are all well, very much enjoying your blog. 🙂

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